What to Watch for this Holiday Season
The Holiday Visit: What to Watch For with Aging Parents
The holidays are a wonderful time for families to gather, especially for those who live far apart and don’t get to see their elderly parents often. These visits are more than just a chance to celebrate; they are a crucial opportunity to observe a loved one’s well-being. It is often during these get-togethers that you may notice changes, such as increased forgetfulness or repetition. Recognizing these signs is the first step in a proactive journey to ensure your parents can remain safe and independent.
Step 1: The Gentle Conversation
If you notice changes that concern you, the most important first step is to approach the conversation with care and respect. Your loved one will likely resist any changes if they feel you are trying to take control of their life. Even if you are alarmed, avoid overreacting. The goal is to work together to find solutions that preserve their independence while ensuring their safety.
Step 2: The Professional Assessment
Often, children can tell that something is wrong but don’t know the severity of the problem. A professional can provide an objective and expert opinion. We recommend hiring an Aging Life Care Professional (formerly a Geriatric Care Manager) to complete an in-home assessment. This professional can recommend simple, inexpensive home modifications—like handrails or wider doorways—to prevent falls and can assess whether your parent might benefit from in-home care. This is a crucial step in proactive planning for Alzheimer’s or dementia.
Step 3: Using Technology to Stay Connected
Technology offers powerful ways to stay connected and monitor a loved one’s safety from afar. If they are comfortable with it, regular video calls using Skype or a similar application allow you to see them face-to-face. If your parents bank online and you have their permission, periodically reviewing their statements can help you ensure bills are being paid and that they are not falling victim to financial scams.
Step 4: Reviewing the Legal Foundation
If you notice significant changes, it is essential to review your loved one’s legal documents immediately. As we age, our planning needs evolve. The simple documents they created years ago may not be sufficient to handle a long-term care crisis. An experienced elder law attorney can ensure their documents are up-to-date and provide the necessary authority to protect their assets.
A plan to secure their legal and financial affairs is the foundation of their long-term safety and your peace of mind. Call our office at (919) 256-7000 to schedule a consultation.